WHAT IS CHILD ABUSE?
Child abuse is not just physical violence directed at a child. It is any form of maltreatment by an adult, which is violent or threatening for the child. … If parents or caregivers are no longer able to cope with caring for the child, this can result in dysfunctional behavior and abuse.
The main categories of Child Abuse are Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Neglect/Negligent Treatment, Sexual Exploitation & Abuse and Exploitation.
- Physical Abuse: Non-accidental use of physical force that inadvertently or deliberately causes a risk of or actual injury or suffering to a child. Physical force includes but is not limited to hitting, shaking, kicking, pinching, pushing/pulling, grabbing, burning, female genital mutilation, torture, and other physical acts.
- Emotional Abuse: Harm to a child’s emotional, intellectual, mental or psychological development. This may occur as an isolated event or on an ongoing basis. Emotional abuse includes but is not limited to any humiliating or degrading treatment (e.g., bad name-calling, threats, yelling/screaming/cursing at, teasing, constant criticism, belittling, persistent shaming, etc.)
- Neglect/Negligent Treatment: The failure to meet a child’s basic physical and/or psychological needs either deliberately or through negligence. Neglect includes but is not limited to failing to provide adequate food, sufficient or seasonally-appropriate clothing and/or shelter; failing to prevent harm; failing to ensure adequate supervision; failing to ensure access to appropriate medical care or treatment or providing inappropriate medical treatment (e.g., administering medication when not authorized); or failing to provide a safe physical environment.
- Sexual Exploitation & Abuse (SEA): All forms of sexual violence and coercion, sexual solicitation, manipulation or trickery including incest, early and forced marriage, rape, involvement in or exposure to indecent images/video (aka pornography), sexual slavery/trafficking, and statutory rape. Sexual abuse may include but is not limited to indecent touching or exposure, explicit sexual language towards or about a child and grooming. Sexual abuse does not always involve touching.
- Exploitation: The attempted abuse of a position of vulnerability, power differential, or trust for the benefit of the individual leveraging their position, power, privilege, or wealth (through enticement, manipulation, trickery)to engage a child in labour, domestic servitude, forced criminality, organ harvesting. Typically, the person(s) exploiting a child does so in order to profit monetarily, socially, or politically.
SIGNS OF ABUSE
The possible signs of an abused individual are:
- Withdrawal or change in the psychological state of the person.
- low self esteem and loss of self confidence.
- Uncooperative and aggressive behaviour
- A change of appetite, weight loss/gain
- Signs of distress, tears and anger
- Loss of sleep and nightmares
- Unexpected and unexplained change in behaviour
- Deprivation of liberty could be false imprisonment
- Social withdrawal or a losss of interestot enthusiasm.
HOW TO PREVENT CHILD ABUSE
Everyone who gives birth to a child has the full care of it. It’s not only important to feed and bath a child, it’s also important to discipline it. Disciplination seems to be a difficult thing, often parents are not able to cope with their children. They have to think of some ‘rules’ to prevent child abuse:
- Encourage your child if he or she is doing what’s right. Always encourage the `good’ person and contemn the `bad’ behaviour. Never tell a child it’s stupid, but tell a child it’s stupid to behave impudent.
- Set clear, fair guidelines. Explain your guidelines and the consequences.
- Never set rules without explaining them, children only obey rules when they understand them.
- Don’t leave your child alone at home or in a park etc., until it has reached an age to take care of itself.
- The most important thing is to listen and to talk to your child. It’s important to inform children about child abuse and about what could happen, it’s important for them to know how to react in certain situations.
What every child should know
- Children should learn the difference between good and bad touch very early.
- The sexual abuser often uses gentle and caring words while touching his victim. Many young children have problems to recognize this as a `bad’ touch.
- Children should know that it’s important and all right to say no in uncomfortable situations. And they should know that it’s not cowardly to run away in such situations.
HOW TO REACT IF A CHILD HAS BEING ABUSED
Parents and children’s friends
If you think a child has been abused it’s very important to talk and to listen to him or her and to believe what you have heard. The child has to be protected from further abuse and the child should know that it will not happen again. Children need to feel protected:
- Explain the child that you feel sorry about what happened and that it’s not him/her fault. Many children think that they have provoked the assault.
- It’s very important to immediately contact your local Child Protective Service Agency.
- May you want to make a donation to an organization, which helps abused children and family then childsafeguardhelpline.ng is the best site.
child safeguard helpline is dedicated to meeting the physical, emotional, educational, needs of abused and neglected children and young adult. It does this by focusing its efforts and resources upon treatment, prevention, and research.
Founded in 2019 by Mrs Grace Osineye, Child safeguard helpline is one of the best non-profits dedicated to the prevention and treatment of child abuse and neglect.”
For further information go to: https://www.childsafeguardhelpline.ng/
How the legal system should deal with child molesters
Eric Lotke says:”Offenders can generally be integrated fully into society as normal productive citizens after a period of treatment.”
- Usually sex offenders are sentenced to prison for 2.5 to 12.8 years. Only a little or no psychological treatment is available for them in prison.
- Compared to other offenders, sex offenders have relatively low rates of recidivism. Psychological treatment would reduce recidivism of sex offenders from 18.55 to 10.9%.
- Another way to deal with child molesters may be castration. Even in the Middle Ages castration has been used as a punishment for adultery and rape.The technology for castration brought up new methods, which are said to be more human.One of these methods is chemical castration. They have produced powerful drugs to block testosterone production If they are injected daily, they reduce testosterone to castration levels. European studies suggest that the common argument “rape is all about power, not sex, and therefor castration won’t work“, is wrong. Of more than 700 castrated sex offenders, the rates of recidivism dropped from 17-50% to just 2%. Over 80% of them gave up masturbating and 70% gave up sex.The problem is that forced castration is difficult to administer. It’s very hard to find doctors willing to do the job. F.e. Heaven’s Gate members had to go to Mexico for the operation because no California doctor would perform it on them.
The Abuser is seldom a stranger. Most abusers are family members, close relatives of the child or parents, caretakers or babysitters or teachers. So the abuser is usually someone who the child knows and trusts. Sexual abuse is mostly comitted by men, but physical abuse is comitted by men and women equally.
Reasons for child abuse may be:
- The abuser was victim of abuse himself
- Legal/illegal drug problems
Abusive parents often have unrealistic expectations about their child’s development and abilities. Many abusers view themselves as victims in life generally and loose control when everything seems to go wrong.
However, not all victims of abuse go on to assault children.
VOLUNTEERS TO ACCOMODATE ABUSED CHILDREN
Volunteers are a vital part of our team; they’re an extension of our workforce and inspire us every day with their commitment to our work. child safeguard helpline is looking for volunteers to help with fun and exciting upcoming events and fundraising opportunities, and also help to foster abused children. Volunteering is a great way to support our mission and to see first-hand the impact you can make. To learn about the volunteer opportunities in your area.